Dear Uncle Bill,
I have been meaning to ask you, what is wrong with my putting stroke? Don’t answer that, I know I need to maintain a consistent take back distance and accelerate through the ball through impact… One of many lessons that are ingrained into my golfing sub-conscious thanks to you. And let’s be honest, I still haven’t taken your advice yet.
You were definitely one to give me golf advice, whether I asked for it or not. But never during a round of golf. To this day, I have never offered advice to anyone during a round as you always said it is bad etiquette to offer advice unless someone asks for it. I also learned if an opponent is faltering, why correct them?
Growing up, my first memory of you was making me smile and laugh when I was going through a tantrum at a wedding. For some reason, no one could calm me that day (not even my own Mother), but all it took was you playing a session of peek a boo with my security blanket to get me back on track. To my recollection, you may have saved me from ruining that day for many people.
You often were the reason that our family get togethers got fun. Sure Auntie Fran’s mashed potatoes always had me at hello, but as I got older I realized the value of good wine. Not once do I remember anyone having to ask you for more wine. You were always hovering over the adults just waiting to re-fill everyone’s glasses so conversations could get more fun. And the “that’s enough” response from your guests didn’t necessarily stop your wine pour too early.
I remember interviewing you for two separate school projects in high school. One was about your experiences in the Internment camps and how you persevered through extraordinary circumstances. And the other was interviewing someone who had experience in a desired discipline: Marketing. Even though we were many years apart, that conversation rang true for me and helped me validate my want to become a business major.
And finally were the walks we would take after a delicious dinner. I remember walking down your street and down the steep hill in your neighborhood. Sometimes you would be carrying a drink in one hand and holding my hand with your other. Many of my friends often ask why I have such an infatuation with nice cars. Well, let’s just say our walks may have planted that seed at an early age. You taught me brand recognition when I was 6 years old. BMW, Mercedes, and Porsche become part of my early vocabulary as we passed by amazing cars during our walk. I may have not been able to count to 100, but I knew what a BMW 3 series looked like if it passed me on a street. Thinking back, you didn’t bother to help me recognize practical cars like Hondas, Hyundais or Toyotas. Perhaps this was your training to get me to set my goals higher?
Though you owned many cars, the beige Mercedes Benz will always be “Uncle Bill” to me. I remember the sound of the engine every time you pulled up to the house. The sound was unmistakable. Not many people knew this, but my Mom had me pick a code word when I was little to validate strangers if there ever was a situation for an emergency pick up. I could never enter a car or talk to them until they muttered the code word. I can give you two guesses on what that password was, but you will only need one.
I know you are in a better place now Uncle Bill and I will always remember you as a third grandfather. When we meet again I hope to share a bottle of wine and talk about how many Superbowls and Championships the 49ers and Warriors left on the table. Until then don’t be a stranger. My code word is Mercedes.
Love,
Craig